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The Adversarial Process of Divorce

Lawyers see divorce as an adversarial process. That is, even if you and your spouse would like to cooperate and part as friends, lawyers will advise you to start seeing each other as the enemy.  Lawyers believe that it’s their obligation to fight for every possible penny and for maximum control of your children.  Even the best-intentioned spouses find it hard not to succumb to lawyers’ advice to fight.
The lawyers’ attitudes turn your divorce into a contest that only the lawyers win.  The conflict escalates, the lawyers get paid, and both spouses end up resentful and regretful.
Even if you do have serious disagreements with your spouse about how you should handle the house, the money or the kids, you don’t need to go down the adversarial path.
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