If you’re clear that you’d like to move forward with a divorce, it goes a lot better if your spouse is accepting of that. I may be able to help the two of you talk about your next steps, including when or whether you are going to move toward divorce. Meeting with me does not commit you to getting divorced, but it may help you collaborate with your spouse on whatever is next.

Usually I suggest that we get together for a one-hour meeting. In that meeting, we can discuss where you’re at and what you want to do next. Sometimes that conversation includes deciding that you need to gather more information, such as, for example, an appraisal of your house. You’re always welcome to talk separately to me if there’s anything you think I need to know. We can have as many or as few meetings as you need. I charge by the hour and only for the time I spend meeting with you?

The legal paperwork required to complete a divorce isn’t very complicated – it’s just a hassle. Many people do their own legal paperwork with the help of the courts website. Other people choose to hire a paralegal service; and some have a lawyer do it. So no, I don’t do the paperwork, but I can help you decide how the two of you want to do it, so you can stay on the same page with each other. I help you with the more important part of the process, where you talk through what your plans are and figure out how to handle any disagreements.

I can help you manage your divorce in a way you can feel good about. Whether you are extremely amicable or in severe conflict, I can help you take good care of yourself while also treating the other person with compassion. Some couples only need one hour of my time. Others spend up to 6 hours with me to sort out all the details.