Mediation Technique & Approach

Simon Mediation’s approach is based on the transformative theory of conflict, which acknowledges that the most important aspect of conflict is the degenerated interaction between the participants.  Transformative mediation provides a mechanism for clients to address their conflict on a meaningful and foundational level, so that a meaningful conversation can take place.  Simon Mediation’s method works well for any type of conflict, including divorce, business disputes, personal injury cases, and others.

How Conflict Managment Works

Conflict makes us feel stuck.  We can’t believe that the other person is behaving this way and we’re frustrated that nothing we do or say seems to help. Transformative Mediation works by opening up your options.  In your Simon Mediation you’ll discover that there ARE things you can do to improve the situation.  Your transformative mediator will provide you with patient, non-judgmental support that will help you find the approach that will serve you best. At the same time, the other party will receive support, making them less defensive and easier to deal with. Before you know it, you’ll discover that the other person isn’t quite as bad as they seem, or at the very least, you are much more capable of dealing with them than you thought.

It’s very rare to find the sort of support that Simon Mediation provides, because others who try to help are distracted by their opinions about the law or their other biases. Simon Mediation-trained transformative mediators have mastered the art of enhancing a conversation so that both people feel better about the situation, both feel empowered to take responsibility and make decisions, and both get a better understanding of where the other person is coming from.

What to Expect in a Mediation Session

Addressing your dispute with Simon Mediation is surprisingly simple:

  • First, schedule a free 15 minute conversation to talk about any unique aspects of your situation.
  • Next, based on that conversation, either suggest Simon Mediation to the other party, or arrange for your Simon mediator to reach out to them.
  • Your Simon mediator will work with you on scheduling, either at one of our locations or by video conference.
  • Your first meeting may be one-on-one with your mediator or it may include the other party, depending on what you decide.
  • Next a meeting of 2 or 3 hours will be scheduled with you and the other party.  In that meeting you’ll be welcome to say what you want to say to the other party, ask what you want to ask them, and explore possible solutions. Your mediator will help make sure you get what you need out of the conversation.
  • In some cases, you may choose to have a follow-up meeting later to confirm that the decisions made in the earlier meeting had the desired effects.
  • If you have a legal case pending, your mediator can coach you on how to finalize those details, maybe with the help of your lawyer, if you have one.

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    Dan would be an excellent choice for anyone seeking an alternative to the traditional legal framework for conflict resolution.
    - Bonnie Westlin, Attorney, Minneapolis, MN
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    This is a progressive, ground breaking movement that is overdue. This should and will shift the stigma of mediation away from being similar to arbitration.
    - Steve Wickelgren, MA, LMFT, Police Sargent, Minneapolis, MN.
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    . . . conflict resolution that goes beyond just resolving the immediate issue but that instead can transform the underlying conflict, so that the change is longstanding.
    - A Minnesota Judicial Officer.
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    Dan Simon’s mediation approach is where collaborative, mediated conflict resolution will be twenty years from now if we’re lucky. . .
    - John G.E. Thompson, Attorney, St. Cloud, MN.
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    New way of resolving conflict.
    - Leah Loomis, Attorney, Chaska, MN